📚 Unf**k yourself

Unf**k Yourself Gary John Bishop What's inside? Discover practical advice and straightforward techniques to break free from negative self-talk and start living a life filled with self-love and acceptance. . . . CHAPTER 1 Be determined to win, no matter what .. Let's cut the crap and get straight to the point. Life's tough, and it's full of challenges that seem impossible to overcome. But here's the kicker - you're tougher. You've got the power to bulldoze through any obstacle that comes your way, no matter how big or scary it might seem. Picture this. You're an athlete, gearing up for the biggest competition of your life. You're up against folks who've been in the game longer and have fancier gear. The odds? Not in your favor. But here's where you flip the script. Instead of letting fear and self-doubt creep in, you stand tall and say, "I can win this." You're not ignoring the reality of your situation, you're just choosing to believe in your own badassery. Stop playing the blame game. Stop saying you're stuck because of bad luck or because someone else screwed you over. That's just a cop-out. It's a way to avoid taking responsibility for your own life. You're not a puppet, you're the puppet master. You're in control. Let's say you're stuck in a job you hate. Don't just whine about your boss or the economy. Do something about it. Get some new skills, hunt for a better job, or hell, start your own business. The point is, stop being a spectator in your own life and start being the star player. In a nutshell, it's all about grabbing life by the horns and refusing to be defined by your circumstances. It's about standing up to challenges and saying, "Bring it on." It's about shifting your mindset from seeing obstacles as roadblocks to seeing them as hurdles to leap over. It's not a walk in the park, but 1with a bit of grit and a can-do attitude, it's definitely doable. . . . CHAPTER 2 Be open to new experiences and perspectives .. Let's talk about willingness. Gary John Bishop, the guy who wrote that book we're all talking about, reckons it's a game-changer. But what does he mean by that? Let's break it down. Bishop isn't just talking about being open to new stuff. He's talking about actively deciding to live life differently. It's about standing up and saying, "I'm ready to shake things up," and really meaning it. This isn't about sitting back and letting life happen to you. It's about grabbing life by the horns and steering it in the direction you want to go. Let's say you're stuck in a job that sucks the life out of you. Willingness, according to Bishop, is about saying, "I'm ready to quit this job and find something I love," and then actually doing it. It's not just about wanting things to be different, but being ready to roll up your sleeves and make it happen. But here's the kicker. Bishop reckons that both willingness and unwillingness can be your allies, depending on the situation. You might say, "I'm not willing to stay in this toxic relationship," and use that unwillingness as fuel to get out and find something better. The trick is to shift your thinking from what you want and don't want, to what you're ready and not ready to do. This shift can help you see things more clearly, giving you a better view of your life and the choices you're making. Bishop believes that willingness is a truth that only you can create. It's about being brutally honest with yourself about what you're really ready to do to shake things up. When you can do this, it can help you kick those self-defeating thoughts and judgments to the curb. In a nutshell, Bishop sees willingness as the key to unlocking a world of new possibilities and potential. It's the starting line for creating a new future and a new you. So, if you're ready to make a change, start by asking yourself, "What am I really ready to do to make this happen?" Your answer could be the first step towards a life that's more fulfilling and a hell of a lot more exciting. . . . CHAPTER 3 Believe in yourself, you're built to win! .. Listen up, you're built to win, and you've got this! This isn't some fluffy, feel-good mantra. It's a kick in the pants, a wake-up call that you're made for success and you've got the power to bulldoze any roadblock in your way. Here's the kicker: even when you think you're losing, you're actually winning. Sounds crazy, right? Let's break it down. Picture a love story. Starts off all sunshine and rainbows, but then things go south and it ends. Feels like a loss, right? Wrong. You've actually won. How the hell is a broken heart a win? Simple. You've nailed exactly what your subconscious mind set out to do. If deep down, you didn't think you deserved a happy ending, your subconscious mind would've steered you towards a breakup. So, in a twisted way, you've won by matching your subconscious expectations. Sounds a bit grim? Nah, it's actually a power-up. It means you can flip the script by changing your subconscious beliefs. If you can get your conscious wants and your subconscious beliefs on the same page, you can use your mind's power to score your goals. That's what it means when we say "you're wired to win". Your mind is a powerhouse, and you can use it to ace life. But let's be real, winning doesn't always feel like a victory lap. Sometimes, it feels like you're getting your ass kicked. When you're stuck in a tough spot, it's hard to see the silver lining. But there's a way out. Change how you see problems and challenges. Here's the thing: stuff that happens doesn't come with a pre-set meaning. You're the one who labels it. If you see a challenge as a crushing blow, it's gonna feel like one. But if you see it as a chance to grow and learn, it's gonna feel like a win. That's where "you've got this" comes in. It's a nudge to trust in your ability to handle whatever life throws at you, and to keep your eyes on the prize. So, remember, you're wired to win and you've got this! It's a shout-out to your inbuilt success mode, the power of your subconscious, and the need to keep a positive outlook. Get these concepts down, and you're set to win at life. . . . CHAPTER 4 Don't fear uncertainty, embrace it .. "Embrace your uncertainties." Sounds like a load of bull, right? But hear me out. This isn't some fluffy, feel-good mantra. It's a kick in the pants, a call to action. Let's break it down. Uncertainty. It's that gnawing feeling when you don't know what's coming next. It's the sweaty palms before a big presentation, the butterflies in your stomach before a first date, the sleepless nights wondering if you're making the right career move. We're wired to hate uncertainty. We want to know what's coming, to have control. But here's the thing: that fear of the unknown? It's holding you back. It's like standing at the edge of a forest, too scared to step in because you don't know what's lurking inside. But what if you did step in? What if you embraced the uncertainty, the unknown? That's where the magic happens. That's where you find new paths, learn new skills, and become a stronger, more resilient version of yourself. Take starting a business, for example. Talk about uncertainty! There's no guarantee of success, and the risk of failure is real. But if you embrace that uncertainty, you open yourself up to the possibility of success. And even if you fail, you come out the other side with valuable lessons learned. And let's not forget about judgement. We're so worried about what others will think, we stay in our comfort zones. But who cares what they think? You're in control of your own actions, your own attitudes. So, what's the takeaway here? Embrace your uncertainties. Step out of your comfort zone. Face the unknown with courage and curiosity. Life is unpredictable, and that's okay. In fact, it's more than okay. It's an opportunity for growth and change. So, don't fear the unknown. Embrace it. . . . CHAPTER 5 You are what you do, not what you think .. "Listen up, you're not the sum of your thoughts. You're the sum of your actions. So, get up, dust off, and be relentless in your pursuit. That's the real deal. Let's break it down. Picture this: you've got a buddy who's always yapping about wanting to be a writer. They're daydreaming about the stories they could spin, the applause they could get. But here's the kicker - they never actually write a damn thing. All that daydreaming is just hot air. They're not a writer because they think about writing. They'd only be a writer if they actually put pen to paper. So, they're not their thoughts about being a writer, they're their actions - or in this case, their lack of action. Now, let's flip the script. Say you've got someone who's always beating themselves up, thinking they're not good enough, not capable. But they keep pushing, keep grinding, and keep smashing their goals. They're not their negative thoughts. They're their actions, their achievements. When I say "stand relentless in it", I'm talking about grit, about determination. It's not just about doing something, it's about doing it with a fire in your belly, no matter what your brain is trying to tell you. So here's the bottom line: don't let your thoughts boss you around. Positive or negative, they're just thoughts. What really counts is what you do, what you act on, no matter what your brain is whispering in your ear. This is how you kick self-doubt to the curb, how you stop procrastinating, how you bulldoze those mental roadblocks standing in your way. So remember, you're not your thoughts; you are what you do. So get out there, be relentless, and don't let your thoughts hold you back.” . . . CHAPTER 6 Act on it to change your thoughts about it .. Let's cut the crap and get straight to the point. You're not your thoughts, you're your actions. That's the real deal. All that chatter in your head? It's just noise. It doesn't define you. What you do, that's what defines you. Think about it. The best things you've done in your life, they didn't come from sitting on your ass in your comfort zone. They came from stepping up, taking risks, and facing the tough stuff. The harder it was, the better you felt when you nailed it. That's because real achievement comes from pushing past the easy and tackling the hard. But most folks would rather stay cozy in their comfort zone, which is why real success is a rare beast. Chasing your dreams, you're gonna face a shitload of self-doubt and negative thoughts. But you gotta keep your eyes on the prize. Stay focused, stay determined. That's what gets you to the finish line. Take Arnold Schwarzenegger, for example. The guy was born poor, dreamed of being a movie star in America. Sounds crazy, right? But he didn't let that stop him. He didn't let the naysayers or his own doubts hold him back. He took action, he made it happen. He changed his own narrative. That's the power of action over thought. Schwarzenegger didn't let his thoughts or anyone else's define him. He defined himself through his actions. His story is a kick-ass reminder that we're not our thoughts, we're our actions. So, here's the bottom line. If you want to change your thoughts about something, get off your ass and do something about it. Don't let your thoughts hold you back or define you. Take action, step out of your comfort zone, face the tough stuff. That's how you achieve greatness and change your own narrative. . . . CHAPTER 6 Act on it to change your thoughts about it .. Let's cut the crap and get straight to the point. You're not your thoughts, you're your actions. That's the real deal. All that chatter in your head? It's just noise. It doesn't define you. What you do, that's what defines you. Think about it. The best things you've done in your life, they didn't come from sitting on your ass in your comfort zone. They came from stepping up, taking risks, and facing the tough stuff. The harder it was, the better you felt when you nailed it. That's because real achievement comes from pushing past the easy and tackling the hard. But most folks would rather stay cozy in their comfort zone, which is why real success is a rare beast. Chasing your dreams, you're gonna face a shitload of self-doubt and negative thoughts. But you gotta keep your eyes on the prize. Stay focused, stay determined. That's what gets you to the finish line. Take Arnold Schwarzenegger, for example. The guy was born poor, dreamed of being a movie star in America. Sounds crazy, right? But he didn't let that stop him. He didn't let the naysayers or his own doubts hold him back. He took action, he made it happen. He changed his own narrative. That's the power of action over thought. Schwarzenegger didn't let his thoughts or anyone else's define him. He defined himself through his actions. His story is a kick-ass reminder that we're not our thoughts, we're our actions. So, here's the bottom line. If you want to change your thoughts about something, get off your ass and do something about it. Don't let your thoughts hold you back or define you. Take action, step out of your comfort zone, face the tough stuff. That's how you achieve greatness and change your own narrative. . . . CHAPTER 7 Don't expect anything, accept everything and live an amazing life .. Let's break down this kick-ass mantra: "Expect nothing, accept everything and live a spectacular life." It's not about giving up on your dreams or becoming a doormat. It's about ditching the chains of expectation and embracing the wild ride of life. First up, "expect nothing." This isn't about tossing your goals out the window or forgetting about your future. It's about ditching the straightjacket of expectations that can strangle the joy out of life. Say you're planning a vacation. If you're hell-bent on every detail being perfect, you're setting yourself up for a fall. But if you roll with the punches, ready to take whatever comes your way, you're more likely to have a blast, even if things don't go exactly as planned. Next, we've got "accept everything." This is about facing reality head-on, not running from it or pretending it doesn't exist. It doesn't mean you have to sit back and take whatever life throws at you. It's about understanding that life is a wild beast, unpredictable and often out of our control. By accepting this, you can ditch the stress and anxiety that come with trying to control every damn thing. For example, if you lose your job, instead of wallowing in the unfairness of it all, you accept it as a fact and focus on your next move. Lastly, "live a spectacular life" is the cherry on top. When you ditch expectations and accept reality, you're free to truly live in the now. You're not held back by fear of the unknown or disappointment. Instead, you're free to take risks, try new things, and really savor life. In a nutshell, this mantra is about letting go of the illusion of control and embracing life's unpredictability. By doing this, you can ditch unnecessary stress and anxiety, and open yourself up to the possibility of a truly spectacular life. This isn't about passively accepting life, but actively engaging with it, taking the good with the bad, the expected with the unexpected. So, to wrap it up, "Expect nothing, accept everything and live a spectacular life" is a call to arms. It's about embracing life as it is, with all its unpredictability and uncertainty. It's about ditching rigid expectations, facing reality, and truly living in the moment. By doing this, you can ditch unnecessary stress and anxiety, and open yourself up to the possibility of a truly spectacular life. . . . CONCLUSION Your life is what you make of it, and it's time to take control. Stop allowing negative thoughts and self-doubt to hold you back. Instead, embrace the power of positive self-talk and affirmations. You are not your thoughts; you are what you do. It's time to stop waiting for the perfect moment and start living in the present. You have the power to change your life, but it starts with changing your mindset. Stop saying "I can't" and start saying "I am". You are capable of achieving your dreams, but you have to be willing to take action. Don't let fear or uncertainty hold you back. Instead, face your fears head-on and push through the discomfort. Remember, you are not alone. Everyone struggles with self-doubt and fear, but it's how you handle these feelings that define you. So, stop overthinking and start doing. You have the power to unf**k yourself and live the life you've always dreamed of. It's time to get out of your head and into your life. In the end, it's not about what happens to you, but how you react to it. So, take control of your life, embrace change, and start living the life you deserve.