READING ARTICLES - CLASS 04

The Myth of Normal 01** The Myth of Normal by Gabor Maté Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture What's it about? Psychology, Health & Nutrition The Myth of Normal (2022) unpacks why chronic disease and mental illness are on the rise. Western medicine focuses on individual pathologies, but what if the key actually lies in our culture? Things we consider normal – like stress, adversity, and trauma – are often toxic and breed disease. The pathway back to health rests in identifying and addressing these underlying conditions. Introduction What’s in it for me? Discover how society’s idea of “normal” is making us sick. In the 1990s, the Cleveland Clinic was witness to a strange phenomenon. Despite having fairly brief contact with patients, the nursing staff could often predict who would develop ALS, a degenerative autoimmune disease that attacks nerve cells in the brain and spine. They would write comments in each patient’s chart like, “Probably has ALS, she is too nice,” or “No way, he is NOT nice enough.” To the astonishment of the neurologists, these predictions were almost always correct. 02** In the decades since, research has supported the nurses’ observations. The title of one published article is, Patients with ALS Are Usually Nice Persons. And it’s true for other diseases, too. In 2000, Cancer Nursing looked at the relationship between anger repression and cancer. But how could a personality trait like niceness possibly predict disease? For world-renowned physician Dr. Gabor Maté, the answer lies in trauma and chronic stress. In fact, these factors often underlie much of what we call disease. 03** Drawing on his decades of experience as a physician, Dr. Maté has set out to debunk common myths about what makes us sick. In this Blink, we’ll explore his powerful critique of how our society fosters illness – and one possible path to healing based on compassion. In particular, Dr. Maté calls on us to stop seeing disease as an expression of individual pathology. Instead, people with illness are a “living alarm,” calling attention to the fact that what passes as normal in this culture is neither healthy nor natural. And things that are abnormal – addiction, mental health, and illness – are actually a reasonable response to the conditions of trauma and stress that many of us live in. 04** Key idea 1 The clash between attachment and authenticity leads to a fractured self. At 27, Mee Ok Icaro developed a rare and painful autoimmune disorder called scleroderma, where the connective tissue throughout the body hardens. It left Mee Ok bedridden and unable to move. She felt so much pain and despair that she wanted to end her life. Mee Ok’s condition vexed doctors, so she began looking to her childhood for answers. Born in Korea to a single mother, she was given up for adoption at six months. She was then taken in by an evangelical couple in the US, who raised her in a strict environment. For years, she suffered sexual abuse by her adoptive father – memories of which she’d repressed. As Mee Ok began to confront her past, she realized how much emotional pain she had been stuffing down. To cope, she had learned to channel her energy into being hyperfunctional and indispensable at work, often carrying the pressures of everyone around her. While Mee Ok’s disease is rare, her story is sadly not. Like the ALS patients at the Cleveland Clinic, these traits of self-sacrifice, suppressing negative emotions (especially anger), and high concern for social acceptance are common in patients with autoimmune diseases. So what’s going on here? For Dr. Maté, it exemplifies what happens when two fundamental human needs – attachment and authenticity – are put in conflict. Attachment is your core need for emotional proximity and love. But you also need to be the author of your life, guided by a deep knowledge of your authentic self. In Mee Ok’s case, the trauma of separation and sexual abuse was so painful and alarming that she had to disconnect entirely from her memories and her emotional self. At some point, she learned that working hard and being useful was a safe way to gain acceptance. This is the split self: there are the parts of you that you believe are acceptable, and there are others you reject. When Mee Ok learned to reconnect with those once rejected parts, she began to heal. Today, she is off all medications and can walk, travel, and even hike again. Next, we’ll explore how this split self sets the conditions for disease. *********** Key idea 2 Stress wreaks havoc on the body, setting the stage for disease. So, we’ve seen how the conflict between attachment – our need for connection with others – and authenticity – our need to be true to ourselves – can lead to a fractured self. We suppress certain parts, like our emotions, in order to win approval or affection. The toll this takes on our health is significant. And the key here is stress. Constantly suppressing our emotions and needs activates the stress response. To better understand this, let’s look at what happens to a body under stress. An emotional stressor first activates a complex network of connections – think of a major highway system with many interchanges – between the hypothalamus, which is the brain center responsible for keeping your biological systems in equilibrium, and the pituitary and adrenal glands, which release stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol. Prolonged or chronic stress leads to an excessive release of these hormones, exhausting the entire system over time. It also wreaks havoc on your nervous system, which you know if you’ve experienced those tense jitters before a big presentation or an exam. What’s worse, this stress inhibits your body’s natural defense against sickness. When functioning properly, the immune system floods in to attack a foreign substance and then dissipates. But stress suppresses the signals that turn it off, leading to chronic inflammation. When the immune system attacks healthy cells, it’s an autoimmune response – like in ALS or Mee Ok’s scleroderma. Stress can even affect our DNA. Telomeres are tiny structures that protect chromosomes from fraying – kind of like the little plastic aglets at the end of your shoestrings. These telomeres shorten as we age, but if they become too short, the host cell can become impaired. Scientists have found that stress and adversity significantly shorten telomeres, prematurely aging our cells and making us more prone to illness. It’s evident that emotional stress is inseparable from the physical state of our bodies. Dr. Maté calls this mind-body unity. But while the stress response evolved to help us survive, modern social conditions are keeping it constantly activated – which is what we’ll explore next. ********** Key idea 3 Our culture generates chronic stress and the conditions for illness. Think back, for a moment, to high school biology. Remember the petri dish? That shallow, transparent container used for growing bacteria or fungi cultures? A petri dish can create the right environment for organisms to thrive: the perfect balance of light, temperature, and nutrients, along with an absence of toxins. If the environment is off, whatever is being cultured may not survive. After decades of treating patients, Dr. Maté has come to see that the petri dish we live in – in other words, our culture – isn’t ideal for human flourishing. In fact, it’s toxic. It breeds the chronic stress that forms the basis of our many ailments. Consider economic insecurity. Most people have had to work harder and more hours than previous generations to keep up financially. This leaves less time for family. For many, their job – a major source of self-esteem and purpose – feels precarious, like they could lose it at any moment. People living in poverty often have to choose between putting food on the table or paying rent. But even the global middle class hasn’t fared well. According to the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development, they’ve been under increased pressure since the 1980s. Groups facing discrimination have far worse health outcomes. A 2020 study by Dr. Brad Greenwood and colleagues found that a Black baby’s risk of death at birth increases twofold if their doctor is not Black. And a Canadian study showed that women have worse outcomes than men after heart surgery because they have to resume their caregiving duties earlier. They simply don’t get the same time to rest and heal as men. For Dr. Maté, all the stress and disconnection we feel is further exploited by our consumerist culture. Think about all the advertising campaigns that set out to make us feel insecure and insufficient in order to sell us products that promise to fulfill our needs. What’s worse, the average person has far less influence over our collective destiny than those with financial power. A recent study found that when a large majority are in favor of a particular public policy, it’s rarely implemented if the economic elite are against it. When we take a step back, it’s no wonder that people are experiencing more stress than ever. **** Key idea 4 Trauma often begins in childhood because society undermines our developmental needs. Here’s the thing about a society that causes so much stress: children feel it most. That’s because parental stress easily transfers to the child. Consider a study by Sonia Lupien and colleagues, which found that a child’s stress-hormone levels rise if their mother is under economic stress. And there’s a good reason for this. A child’s development makes them extremely sensitive to their environment. What happens in these formative years sets the foundations for everything to come – their health, brain development, and future relationships. The child’s primary developmental need is having secure and reliable attachment to caregivers, coupled with warm, attuned, and consistent interactions. Poor attachment, or stressed and distracted interactions, can lead to shaky emotional and mental development. Considering this, you might imagine that society would do everything in its power to provide a low-stress environment for childbirth and child-rearing. Yet that couldn’t be further from reality. First of all, there is the stress of feeling alone and unsupported in raising children – and the economic pressure parents often face today. But alongside this, parents also take cues from a culture that centers child development around the needs of society rather than the needs of the child. It begins with overly medicalized birthing practices, which often deny women’s agency and lead many to experience obstetric trauma. Then, the integral contact that a child needs with caregivers in the first months of life is undermined by parental leave policies. One quarter of American women, for example, return to work after just two weeks. There are also parenting guides that subvert parental instincts by encouraging disconnection and punishment. Dr. Benjamin Spock’s influential guide, for example, encourages parents to sleep-train infants by leaving them to “cry it out.” The requirement here is for children to adjust to the demands of society’s work schedules. A culture that undermines childrens’ need for secure attachment creates the conditions for the sort of embedded, chronic stress that comes with self-fracturing. This is the basis for trauma, an emotional and psychological woundedness that we can carry throughout life. *** Idée clé 5 Votre santé est une expression de la vie que vous avez vécue et du contexte qui l'entoure. Le modèle de la dépression permanente du Dr Maté remonte à son enfance. Il est né dans le traumatisme de la Hongrie occupée par les nazis et ses grands-parents juifs ont été tués à Auschwitz. Sa jeune mère, craignant pour la santé de son bébé, l'a envoyé vivre avec des parents qui ont trouvé des conditions de cachette plus sûres. Mais quand les deux ont été réunis plus tard, il n'a même pas regardé sa mère. Aujourd'hui, le Dr Maté comprend que sa réponse au traumatisme de la séparation a été raisonnable et adaptative. Son détachement et sa répression émotionnelle l'ont aidé à ne pas ressentir à nouveau une douleur aussi insupportable, tout comme les souvenirs refoulés d'abus de Mee Ok. Il peut également maintenant voir la manière dont il a absorbé le traumatisme de sa propre mère en vivant ces événements déchirants. Mais encore, comme avec tous les enfants qui subissent un traumatisme, il s'est ancré dans son système nerveux et son esprit, influençant son comportement jusqu'à l'âge adulte. Lorsque nous traitons la maladie mentale, comme la dépression, comme une simple maladie, nous manquons l'occasion de comprendre à quoi elle servait autrefois. De nombreux patients toxicomanes que le Dr Maté a traités se sont d'abord tournés vers la drogue ou l'alcool pour échapper à leur douleur émotionnelle et à leur traumatisme précoce. Comprendre la source de la souffrance - traumatisme, adversité et stress - en tant que conditions sociales de vie dans une culture toxique aide à mettre la maladie et la maladie sous un jour différent. Dans ce nouveau cadre, les corps et les esprits malades ressemblent davantage à une sirène : nous pourrions regarder ce que la maladie et la maladie mentale expriment sur la vie et le contexte social dont elles sont issues. Nous avons tendance à considérer la maladie comme quelque chose qui surgit un jour, complètement à l'improviste. Et si, au lieu de cela, nous voyions une maladie comme un processus – un voyage qui peut remonter aux premiers jours de la vie et s'étendre jusqu'au présent ? Que se passe-t-il si quelqu'un qui est malade est au milieu d'une transformation et est appelé à regarder honnêtement et avec un cœur ouvert les blessures qu'il porte ? *** Key idea 6 Healing is about finding a pathway to wholeness. While detoxifying our culture is beyond the scope of this Blink, there is still a lot of cause for hope. That’s because healing is possible. For Dr. Maté, healing is the natural movement toward wholeness. If the conditions for disease begin with a separation from the self, emotions, and others, then it makes sense that one solution is to reintegrate our fractured parts. This process involves acknowledging our suffering, and the suffering of the world, and learning to confront the wounds that have caused disconnection. A powerful strategy that you can begin to use in your own life is an exercise called Compassionate Inquiry. Compassion is an attitude that accepts what is, and the person you are. In other words, there is no should. It allows for genuine and open inquiry, where you don’t presume to have all the answers. This is a practice to try daily, or weekly at first. It involves answering some introspective questions, and it’s best to write your answers out by hand. The first things to ask yourself are: When do I struggle to say no in the areas of my life that matter, and how does that impact me? When have I denied following my urge to say yes? These questions are about identifying the ways in which you deny your emotions and needs, and prioritize others. Then you can ask, What bodily signals have I been ignoring? What symptoms could be trying to give me warning? In these questions, you’re focusing on the mind-body connection, identifying where emotional stress is held in your body. Next, try to identify the hidden story behind your inability to say no. Where did you learn these stories? This is about untangling the narrative, so that you can see how your responses and behaviors once served you. And that’s it. The goal of this healing work is to learn to hear your authentic, essential self. Once you’ve achieved that, you can free yourself from the automatic responses and adaptations to stress, adversity, and trauma that keep you disconnected. *********** Final summary Born into an environment that centers around the needs of society rather than parents and children, many of us experience small and large traumas of all kinds. To cope, we split from those painful emotions – rejecting parts of ourselves and turning away from loving connection. The source of mental illness, addiction, and disease often traces back to these inner wounds and the stress they lock into our body. Despite many societal advances, disease and mental illness are on the rise. But the medical system rarely considers the whole life of a patient or their inner emotional world. Instead, it isolates the biology of disease from its social context, trying to cure illness so we can get back to normal. But what is normal? It may just be the very thing that is making us sick in the first place. ************************* Reading: The myth of normality by Gabor Maté Over the past few years, I have gradually begun to question myself about the paradigm of conventional medicine, which dissociates the body from the spirit and is content to treat the symptoms without being interested in their root causes. In this powerful talk, Gabor Maté, world-renowned physician and expert on addiction and trauma, exposes how we humans are accustomed to a dysfunctional "normalcy", in which our basic needs are sacrificed in the name of harmful and anxiety-provoking societal values. Numerous scientific studies carried out in recent decades demonstrate how trauma and the resulting stress can directly affect physiological systems such as the immune system, circulatory system and our metabolism, thus contributing to the explosion of pandemics with physical manifestations and mental, with consequences so severe and pervasive that they have become the "norm". Science suffers from a certain schizophrenia in this regard. She worships demonstrable facts, but struggles to question herself when her paradigm is challenged. In the United States and other developed countries, more than half of the population takes at least two drug treatments daily. How did we get there ? Why is life expectancy beginning to show signs of decline in so-called developed countries, or has it sometimes already begun to decline? Gabor Maté's thesis, to which I strongly adhere, can be summed up as follows: a sick society generates sick people. Modern medicine can be miraculous, it is not a question of questioning that, nor its usefulness. But I wholeheartedly believe that unless we heal our minds and our society, the race of science is lost. Health is multifactorial and the body cannot be treated as a separate and isolated entity. https://www.cheminsdeconscience.ch/post/lecture-le-mythe-de-la-normalit%C3%A9-par-gabor-mat%C3%A9-comment-une-soci%C3%A9t%C3%A9-malade-rend-les-gens-malades