Reading A gentle reminder by Bianca sparacino

The right person will know how to hold your love, the right person will choose you just as deeply as you choose them. You will not have to quiet the way you care, you will never feel like you are too much. You will not have to beg for the love you deserve. One day, you will be someone's favorite thing, and you will not be confused, you will not feel like you are fighting for someone who isn't fighting for you. One day, you will understand that it never mattered how tightly you held on to the wrong people, how intensely you tried, because the right people were always going to find you, and the right people were always going to stay. Bianca sparacino - A Gentle Reminder

Remember Even the strongest souls get exhausted, the strongest human beings, the ones who laugh the loudest and hope the hardest, the ones who are always there for others - those souls often need people there for them. So, please- check on your kind friends. Check on the people in your life who are tender, the ones who are always open to give so much of who they are for those who need it. Check on the people in your life who love with every ounce of their being, who feel deeply and care deeply and try to fix and mend and make sure that those around them are okay. Please, just check on the people in your life who are brave, who are soft for this world. Check on the people in your life who protect others at all costs - because those souls need protecting too. Those souls need to be reminded that they deserve the love they keep giving to everyone else. Bianca sparacino - A Gentle Reminder

When you are ready to put your heart into this world again, do not look for the same kind of love you have experienced ; resist the urge to compare the human beings that come into your life to the ones that have left. Because the truth is - two loves will never be the same. Love is like a fingerprint, curated between two individual souls, and within that it is always its own rare and beautiful thing, an extension of who you both were within those moments in time. In moving on, in dealing with the breaking and the rebuilding of your heart, you grow. You become a different person, and in turn the love you need, the love that will nourish you and inspire you and meet you where you are now - that grows as well. That changes. Bianca sparacino - A Gentle Reminder

If something ignites you - chase it. Chase it, because you don't want to look back in two years, or five years or twenty years and wonder what would have been. Chase it, because you don't want to think back to all of the potential, and all of the beauty, you missed out on because you were afraid, or because you let an idea of yourself that was untrue rob you of your joy or your capacity to move confidently in the direction of the things that inspired you. Chase it - because you can, because you deserve to experience what is profound and remarkable in this world, because you are worthy of the things that make your chest tighten with happiness and wonder. Chase it, because you never know what is waiting for you on the other side of your comfort. You never know what is waiting for you on the other side of your hope. Bianca Sparacino - A Gentle Reminder

The kindest people are not born that way, they are made. They are the souls that have experienced so much at the hands of life, they are the ones who have dug themselves out of the dark, who have fought to turn every loss into a lesson. The kindest people do not just exist - they choose to soften where circumstance has tried to harden them, they choose to believe in goodness, because they have seen firsthand why compassion is so necessary. They have seen firsthand why tenderness is so important in this world. Bianca sparacino - A Gentle Reminder

You can do hard things. You strong enough to live without them. You are strong enough to become the person you have always wanted to be. You are strong enough to let go, to walk away, to ask for what you need, to stand up for yourself and your heart and the life you truly want to live. You can do hard things, no matter how difficult they are. Whatever you do, PLEASE, just believe in that. KEEP GOING. Nothing is going to defeat you. Nothing has the capacity to destroy you, unless you give it permission to. So, keep going. You're going to look back on these moments in your future, and you are going to be so glad that you trusted in your healing. You are going to be so glad that you chose to believe that there was more for you. Bianca sparacino - A Gentle Reminder

Sometimes, love doesn't win. Sometimes beautiful things end because outgrow another human being. Sometimes love becomes too heavy to hold - the potential and the lessons and the evolution have reached a threshold, there is nowhere else to place your hope. However that isn't something you should deem a failure or something that should break your heart. That is something to celebrate. You managed to care for someone in the deepest way, and you grew one another into human beings who are going to go off into this world and change other people with that love. You did all that you could for one another, and instead of forcing something that wasn't working or fulfilling you anymore, you chose to walk away. You chose to release your grip, to believe that there were other things in store for your hearts. There is bravery in that. Bianca sparacino - A Gentle Reminder

The truth is, we won't always end up with those we feel something deep and meaningful with. Some chapters of our lives are full and dizzying in the best way – with concrete endings and concrete closure. But some chapters end quickly, sometimes in the middle of the page, sometimes before we are even ready. We cannot control what comes to fruition in our lives. We cannot control how long someone chooses to love us ; we cannot control how long someone chooses to stay. At the end of the day, all we can do is learn from the endings, all we can do is embrace the fact that for a moment in time, we felt something beautiful. For a moment in time, we felt something rare. A gentle reminder - Bianca Sparacino

In a society that has taught us to favor being cool over being connected, promise yourself that you will always choose to be the person who cares. To be the person who does not desensitize themself, to be the person who slams their heart into the people who excite it without hesitation, without worrying if it is too much or too intense or too loud. Trust me when I say that you will never scare off the souls that will fully understand you, and nurture you, and celebrate you, by being open to this world, by being honest, by being the kind of person who loves deeply. Do not water yourself down, do not silence the parts of yourself that leap towards the beauty you see in another human being. Be all that you are. Be all that you are. A gentle reminder - Bianca Sparacino

In time, maybe you have to lay down that expectation, maybe you have to release that comparison, and instead, maybe you have to trust in the lessons and the ways in which the world has asked you to stretch towards your becoming. Maybe you have to stop looking backwards. Molting is the process by which a snake routinely casts off its skin to facilitate new growth, and sometimes life forces you to do the same. Sometimes, life challenges you to shed relationships, and ideals, and the old versions of yourself that no longer serve you. So when you feel like you are not the same person, when you feel like you have unraveled, like you have evolved into someone you do not recognize, maybe that is something to honor. You have transitioned, you have transformed, and life will ask you to do so time and time again as you journey through it. Do not fear your evolution. Claim it. A gentle reminder - Bianca Sparacino