Conversational English: The 5 Stages of Moving On

VOCABULARY 1. mend (verb) - fix 2. funnel (verb) - pour through 3. manifest (verb) - display, show 4. shatter (verb) - to break into pieces 5. do-over (noun) - an opportunity to do something again or repeat it, especially when it did not turn out well the first time

1. DENIAL This is the time when you would say no and refuse to accept that the relationship is over. The part where you still believe and hope that the person who broke your heart would be the same person that would mend it. You funnel every last hope that the relationship can still be saved, you try to postpone your need to grieve that it has ended. 2.ANGER Your anger can manifest in different ways – it could be with the person who has shattered your heart, it could be with the people that are around you or the situations/people that were associated with your loss. 3. BARGAINING At this stage, you’re willing to do anything to avoid that closure. You’ll try to promise yourself that you can be a better partner. That you’re willing to change all the flaws that you realize you have during your relationship. This is the stage of “WHAT IF'S” or “IF ONLY I COULD”. The stage that you’d pray and wish that you could have a do-over.

4. DEPRESSION This could be the hardest stage; this is pretty much similar to anger. However during this stage it can surface different types of emotions. This is the stage where you lose your faith – with the people around you but mostly with your SELF. That maybe just maybe you deserve to feel this way – the stage where everything feels “hopeless” 5. ACCEPTANCE If got your self through those 4 stages, give your self a tap in the back. I sure know that it wasn’t an easy ride. FINALLY! This is the stage where you make peace with your self. Where you find that you are worth a thousand times than what you think you did. This is the stage where you know that you are a strong independent person that you’ll do perfectly fine. The phase where you realize that moving on is not really about forgetting what happened, but accepting and forgiving your person who has hurt you and forgiving yourself for breaking down. This is the phase where you stand stronger and better.